When you're supporting someone
There is space for you in this story too.
Supporting someone with cancer can mean many different things: being present, helping with everyday tasks or arranging help from a distance. There is no single right way to be close.
Notice what you are taking on
Sometimes writing down your responsibilities reveals just how much you do. You can consider which things you want to handle yourself and where you need someone else's help.
You can ask for something small and specific. You don't need to wait for a perfect plan to divide up every task.
You have your own experience
Love and care can exist alongside tiredness, uncertainty or anger. A conversation of your own doesn't have to be only about becoming even better at helping the person who is ill.
You might ask yourself: “What is hard for me to talk about around others?” or “What do I need this week?” These are questions for reflection, not a test or a way of judging yourself.
You can seek support for yourself
Talking to someone you trust, joining a group or having an individual consultation are different options. The same format won't suit everyone; ask about the arrangements and choose what feels right for you.
You can come to a consultation for loved ones on your own. You don't need to present a complete treatment history or wait for the person who is ill to seek help first.
Source: National Cancer Institute — Support for Caregivers of Cancer Patients.
Source: Maggie's — Support for family and friends.
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