For loved ones
You are alongside someone who is ill.
There is space for you too.
You may be supporting a partner, parent, child or friend and also need a conversation of your own. You can attend a consultation on your own.
Ask about support for yourself
About your
needs
Supporting someone close can change your whole everyday life.
- Feelings without comparison
- Fear, anger, helplessness or tiredness don't have to give way entirely to the needs of the person who is ill. You can talk about your own experience without comparing who has it harder.
- Responsibilities and rest
- We can explore how much you are taking on, what help you would like to ask for and where you need a boundary. The conversation also makes room for needs beyond your role as a carer.
- Changing relationships
- Illness can affect conversations, closeness and plans. Your own consultation gives you space to explore this from your perspective.
A conversation
without pressure
You can begin by asking, rather than assuming what someone needs. The sentences below are examples, not quotations from patients.
“Would you rather talk today, or just spend some time together?”
“I can do the shopping on Thursday. Would that help?”
“I don't know what to say, but I want to be here.”
The person who is ill may have different needs from those we expect. It helps to leave room for them to say no or change their mind.
Support for
your family too
If illness affects your whole household, you can ask about a conversation focusing on children and family communication. At first contact, we will agree who will attend.
If you would like to meet people with similar experiences, you can also ask about support groups. We choose the form of help after getting to know your situation.
Support for children and young peopleRead about support groups
Further reading: Macmillan — supporting someone with cancer (EN) and Maggie's — support for family and friends (EN). Original informational content; individual support is agreed during a consultation.
Let's talk
You don't need to know where to start.
You can simply get in touch.
